Whose line is it anyway?

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What better way to live in the moment than catch a re-run of the hilarious show ‘Whose line is it anyway’ while eating a cookie? 🙂

#Weekdaynights!

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Re-posted from a shared article on Facebook. Resonated…


My mom once asked me, “Dhruv, you aren’t dating any girl… you aren’t gay right? (smiling) Right? (stops smiling) Right?”

This happened a couple of years ago. What followed was a one-hour argument, starting with “What if I was?”

After breaking through various barriers,
“But it’s not natural”
“Okay, but it can be cured”
“Okay, but I hope you aren’t”
“Okay, but what about grandchildren”
“Okay”
We finally got to: “Are you? It’s okay. You can tell me.”

(And also “Dhruv, you can’t find a girl because you’re fat”. I ignored that. One social issue at a time!)
Which brings me to my point:
As a youngster, the biggest service you can do to society is telling YOUR parents they’re wrong. And man our parents are wrong. They’re wrong a lot.
My parents have taught me a lot. They’ve encouraged and inspired me endlessly, and surely are the coolest parents I know, but the most important thing they’ve taught me is to question authority, even theirs.
I have many close friends who regularly share liberal anti-racist, anti-sexist posts online, but have accepted that they won’t, for example, “get married outside their community”. You aren’t helping. You are the disease you so righteously claim to be trying to cure.
While preaching peace to our generation, we ignore our parents generation, where, even in the most open minded homes, phrases like, “look at her clothes” “these <insert group/religion/caste here> are all the same”, are uttered in not-so-hushed tones.
Today, the biggest propagators of the notion of rape culture, caste system, racism, islamophobia, homophobia etc are your parents generation, however latent it may be. Do not ignore it because you think you’re respecting your parents. You aren’t. You are disrespecting them by letting them become socially irrelevant.If you trace it, squash it.
Let it be an argument, a fight, a stand off, but don’t give up on your parents by silently letting them be carriers of social evils.So, stop preaching online. Look behind your computer screens at the wrinkled little lovable bigot you’re living with. If you love them, tell them they’re wrong. They’re wrong a lot.
Let’s make the world a better place, one parent at a time.

10 things I have learnt from my 2 year career stint!

  1. Apart from jobs like academic professions like medicine or law, job requirements are largely negotiable — you just have to prove that you can bring value to the table. Be willing to “break the rules” a bit.
  2. The combination of believing that you can get to almost wherever you want to be, having discipline, and having insecurity about where you are is the formula for a successful, impactful career. Embrace that feeling of inadequacy. Keep learning.
  3. What’s realistic for you is entirely predicated on what you’ve been exposed to. We all fear what we do not understand. Once you have been exposed to it and understand it, it’s not scary anymore. Follow successful people, read their books, listen to their interviews, study what they did to get where they are — and eventually, those crazy unrealistic dreams will become realistic for you.
  4. Do what you enjoy doing, and be great at it. Everything else will come.
  5. Surrounding yourself with the right people could lead to more opportunities than any company could ever give you.
  6. Be patient. Don’t be afraid to take one step back today to take two steps forward tomorrow.
  7. In the beginning of your career, your technical skills matter the most.You get tested on how well you can use excel, or write code, or design products, etc.But as time goes on, those technical skills start to matter less. How you interact with people starts to matter a lot more. And it’s true, being good at what you do matters. But you need much more than that. You need to know how to navigate the world of office politics. You need to figure out how to add value outside of your role.You need to figure out what your company needs, and give it to them — even if they don’t tell you what it is. Network constantly and learn to sell yourself.
  8. Real education starts after college. Successful people read as much as one book a week sometimes. They listen to podcasts. They go to conferences. They read research papers. They talk to other people who are doing big things.That’s how they’re able to “connect the dots” between seemingly unrelated subjects, and use that insight to land more opportunities.
  9. Always get more exposure. After you accomplish anything professionally, get online and write about it.Help someone who was once in your shoes trying to figure things out.Exposure builds credibility.The bigger the audience you have, the more people will take you seriously.
  10. Someone who expects to be “set for life” after getting a job at a brand name company is probably screwed. No job is objectively good or bad. It’s what you make of it.

Finally,

Alex Banayan said it best:

“[All highly successful people] treat life, business, and success… just like a nightclub.

There are always three ways in.

There’s the First Door, where 99% of people wait in line,hoping to get in.

There’s the Second Door, where billionaires and royalty slip through.

But then there is always, always… the Third Door. It’s the entrance where you have to jump out of line, run down the alley, climb over the dumpster, bang on the door a hundred times, crack open the window, and sneak through kitchen. But there’s always a way in.

Whether it’s how Bill Gates sold his first piece of software, or how Steven Spielberg became the youngest director at a major studio in Hollywood — they all took the Third Door.” — Alex Banayan

Apr’16 – Till United Kingdom come!

Day 1- Arrival in London : Borough market, Harry Potter Studios

From Harry Potter to Harrods to High tea, London has something magical for everyone. As a child, I devoured the stories of London city and British countryside and longed to see it and be a part of it. And boy, do dreams come true! A trip booked on a whim due to amazingly low priced Lufthansa tickets turned out to be the best experience of our lives.

We arrived in London City airport, got our Oyster cards and dragged our luggages on the relatively ( to Singapore) narrow tube to Borough Market. We moved into our quirky hostel St.Christopher’s Inn and set off on a walk along the lanes of Borough Market.

If I could , I would eat here everyday! Street food from world cuisines – I ain’t saying no to that 😀

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After munching Indian chaat cooked to perfection by English chefs,  H and I set off to the la-la land of Harry Potter in Warner Bros studio , Watford Junction. Good that we booked our tickets a month in advance! On a scale of 1-10 how much do I like Harry Potter?

9 3/4 quarters of course! The studio was the workplace of all the actors from 1-8 HP movies. The 1000 odd set designers and artists who worked on it made our real world magical by making the magical world real. Every set piece in the Studios brought back those lovely childhood memories trapped in the deep recesses of my brain. I tried my hand at flying and wand witchcraft. We pretended to be couples flying far far away in Ron’s enchanted car . We pretended to be in Snape’s potions class stirring the mechanical revolving cauldron. On occasions of back-to-reality phases, we learnt how the directors and visual effects artists turned Hogwarts class into a huge living school. Although slightly over-priced, the tour was once-in-a-lifetime experience! We ended our tour caping ourselves in Hogwarts robes and sipping authentic butterbeer.

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Day 2: Warwick Castle, Stratford upon Avon, Cotswolds, Oxford , English Pub

After some sound sleep (and hence conquering jet lag) we zoomed to Victoria station to catch our Premier Tour Bus for a day outside London. Enroute, we saw Buckingham Palace – weekday home of England’s longest serving reigning monarch – Queen Elizabeth 2, Pimilco ( Residence of London MPs – Mostly Promises apparently! ) and a host of other places before making our to the highway towards Warwick castle.

After an hour, we reached Warwickshire where the mighty Warwick castle stands on the River Avon. Hugh, our perfect English tour guide took us down the Warwick history lane. Now owned by Madame Tussads to recreate life-like wax statues from that era, Warwick is a medieval castle built by William the Conquerer in the 11th Century.

Armed with coats, gloves and scarf, we headed out to the castle on what seemed to be a “warm” day in Uk. Little did we know that it would experience April snow showers only a few hours later! But, oh the excitement 🙂 Anyway, I digress.So we started off with a bow and arrow show , walked around the castle, the dungeons, the prisons and the royal chambers and managed to catch the amazing Trebuchet show – one of the world’s largest working siege engines!

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We sat alongside little school students with marshmallow hot chocolate and saw a giant rock weighing less than 150 kg thrown upto 300 m and as high as 25 m. It was a scene seen to behold. After catching a random beautiful fully-open feathered peacock chilling on the grass, we climbed up the castle to catch the terrace view before rushing back to the bus, for our next stop – Stratford-upon-Avon!

The birthplace of Shakespeare – Stratford upon Avon had the quintessential English charm which I loved. A quaint  town situated across Cotswold Villages with honey-colored stone houses, the place beamed with Shakespearean literary energy. The place recently celebrated the 400th anniversary of Shakespeare on April 23rd, 2016.

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After exploring the house and some shops, we had yummy food at ‘Food of Love’ Cream tea,scones, lasagna and English salad…”If music be the food of love, play on..”

Next stop, Oxford!

It was 4 pm in the evening when we reached Oxford and it was oh,so cold and windy! We took refuge in the great halls of Oxford ( HP great hall scenes were filmed here!) and i so wished for the beautiful cutlery to be filled with food! We roamed around Christ Church and the lawns. Oxford University is a city university – there is no main campus – the accommodation, faculty and halls are all around the city center.We saw University the Church of St.Mary the Virgin, the Sheldonian theatre. The whole town gave the whole colonial era feel with students dressed in robes and reciting latin verses. It would have been a unique experience to study here.

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We boarded our bus back to London and we arrived there in freezing cold. We met our colleague and friend in a traditional English pub next to Victoria station for pot pie,mashed potatoes and cider – all very English.

Day 3 – Borough Market (again!), Windermere, Lake District

Windermere , the largest lake in Lake District, is also an adorable town right out of the pages of an Enid Blyton book. We checked into a backpackers hostel with complete self service, had a nice walk in the rainy weather , warmed ourselves to French soup and pizza. It was an amazing afternoon – almost felt like I was in Stars Hollow with friendly neighbours whose lives might have intertwined into mine. We visited to the local stores, treated ourselves to some Sticky Toffee Pudding and just people-watched. Everyone was so warm and friendly with beautiful houses and cute dogs – we so wished to come back and retire here.

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A trek up to Orrest Head early in the morning 🙂

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Day 4 – Beatrix Potter Tour by Lake District Tours, Edinburgh – Royal Mile

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Day 5 – Sandeman’s Free Walking Tour, Edinburgh Castle Tour, The Dark Side Tour

View from Hostel – Edinburgh Castle Rock Hostel – funkiest hostel I have stayed in!

Say hello to animated David Maitland – our Sandeman walk tour guide :


Day 6 – Back to London, London Tower Bridge walk, BrakeAway Secret London Bike Tour, Bomb Scares, beautiful walks



Day 7 – Sandeman’s Grand Tour of London , Piccadilly Circus, Hyde Park Corner , and food-hopping

Day 8 – British museum, 221b Baker Street, Science Museum , Harrods and Middle eastern dinner


Day 9 – Yummy long breakfast at St Christopher’s Inn and tube ride to Heathrow Airport.

Hope you enjoyed this post !

I will be back , UK 🙂

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